Dealing With Document Disappointments - My Duers Do It Again!

I have blogged extensively about my mysterious Duer family that I connect with DNAwise but can't prove a firm document relationship between son Thomas, who died in 1829 and his purported father, John, who died in 1831.  Thomas' family lived next to John in Trumbull County, Ohio but none of Thomas' children were mentioned in John's will.  John's will only mentioned 1 grandchild and named all of his other living children.  The 1 grandchild was the son of his deceased daughter and was easily recognizable by his last name, Hazen.

I've theorized that none of Thomas' children were named because Thomas had already been given an "inheritance" of land adjoining John's.  I also thought John might have been slightly put off by Thomas' widow, Hannah, quickly remarrying another neighbor who was a widower, James Preston.  That marriage didn't seem to last as both Hannah and James can be found in 1840 living with their adult children.

The land that Thomas lived on remained with one of his son's until the mid-1800's when he sold it to what I believe would have been a cousin who had come to own John's property.  Of course, there was nothing to show the connection between the two listed in the deed transaction so I can't prove that relationship, either.

I've been told repeatedly to give up the search but I will admit I'm obsessed with this line.  So, every few months, I recheck to see if any new records are uploaded, a new DNA match can be found that might hold the key in their basement or attic, or a donation is made to an archive in the areas the family lived where someone drops off records that will be the proof I need.

Yes, I already have DNA proof.  There have been several descendants of John's children who have tested and we all relate but I want a document!  Or do I?

Last month, I found 2 documents online that gave me promise.  I was hoping they would lead me to the smoking gun record; this is what I discovered posted on Ancestry with no citation:

Although I found this posting just two days after it was done, when I reached out to the poster, her response was she couldn't remember where she found it and would get back with me.  I love her dearly because she wrote back the next day and said she found it from another Ancestry poster named John Shivers.  She though it came from Revolutionary War Patriots from Ohio.  She gave me a link to an archive in Ohio but they didn't have it.

I found a John Shivers on Ancestry and emailed him but he hadn't been online in over a year so I wasn't hopeful I would get a response.  I wasn't even sure he was the John Shivers that originally posted it as I couldn't access the private tree.  

Then I reached out to a colleague in my locale who is a member of the Trumbull County Genealogical Society to see if he could check the membership roster and give me contact info for John Shivers.  There was no info but he sent me a new member who was interested in the Duers.  I emailed them but the email address wasn't working.

I then searched Worldcat and Google for the title but only found a SAR pdf that wouldn't open.  

Going to the national SAR website, I found no new info; the Ancestor # 150827 is the number assigned by that organization so I decided to reach out to the Mahoning County, Ohio Chapter hoping that they might have a file with the relationship I was seeking that wasn't submitted to national.  

The local chapter's website is under construction.  Their Facebook page has no contact info.  I reached out to a Trumbull County local who had given me info several years ago - she had tripped over Thomas' fallen gravestone when she was conducting a cemetery clean up and loves to kid me that he almost killed her.  She found two email addresses for local SAR members.

I emailed both.  One never responded.  The other said he's no longer in that area so isn't a member but he kindly forwarded my query to the current president.  The president said the chapter reactivated 4 years ago and has no old files in their possession (who knows what happened to that stuff!?)  so he forwarded my email to the organization's state genealogist.  That gentleman gave me the heartbreaking news - the real citation is from Roster of Revolutionary War soldiers buried in Ohio. Wilbur R. Branthoover, compiler. Veterans Affairs, Ohio. Reprinted by OHSDAR. 1929.

The SAR doesn't even use it any longer because the info has been found to be incorrect.  That is true - my John Duer who is buried in Ohio served in New Jersey and not Pennsylvania, that was my John's cousin also named John.  

So, another dead end here.  Then I found another posting that stated that Thomas had been in the War of 1812.  That was news to me as I had checked online and in the National Archives and could never find him involved in that conflict.  The posting had a citation (hurray!) and when I followed up this is what I found:

It was a John Duer and not Thomas that served.  Someone had misindexed and then hadn't checked the original source.  And the John named to have served in the War of 1812 was my John's grandson but not descended from Thomas.  You have to laugh at this - I discovered the mistake on November 2, 2019, 107 years to the day that this cousin John left the service.  

Yes, I'm deeply disappointed that the newly found leads led to nothing but I'm not giving up.  Several people have told me that I'm never going to find what I'm looking for but I don't agree.  I'm thinking boots on the ground might be my next action.  Unfortunately, that will have to wait a while.  

In the meantime, I'm moving on to other lines.  Oh, Duers, why doth disappoint me so?