Customs - the story takes place in Mexico on the eve of Dia de Los Muertos, the Day of the Dead. Even though my family never celebrated that holiday, we sure celebrated many others. Think back to your own childhood and identify customs that your family practiced. Did Aunt Marge always bring a special dish? If so, ask why before it's too late. I regret not writing down the words in Croatian that my grandparents said before Christmas Eve dinner. I know it was brought with them from the Old Country but unfortunately, that custom is now lost to me.
Photo clues - One of my favorite parts of Coco is the altar of photos. I don't have that layout but I do have a family tree of photos on the wall in my office. Those photos are of couples going back 5 generations. Around the tree I've placed pictures of large family gatherings to include more of the extended family. I also received as a Christmas gift a metal tree that holds smaller photos. I've placed pictures of many of those couples as infants on this stand alone tree. By seeing the "big picture" you can often identify people in other photos that were considered unknown.
In Coco, the main character, Miguel, accidentally discovers a displayed photo had been altered and the missing person is critical to his story. That part of the film made me laugh as my family does the same thing Miguel's family did! I inherited some photos from a deceased second cousin and one of them was torn vertically to remove someone. I've never been able to find a copy of the intact photo but from the dress of the remaining individual, it appears that it was taken before a cantakerous divorce. There's a story behind every missing person in a photo and it pays to try to uncover it.
Making Wrong Assumptions - Like Miguel, I've been down the wrong trail of who I thought was family. Aided by spirits, he was able to uncover the truth. You don't have to hire a medium to find the answer - simply take a DNA test. One of my husband's cousins is doing a Lazarus project on a line through Gedmatch. I'll be writing about it soon but in the meantime, if you aren't familiar with that term, it's trying to "raise the dead" by comparing the living's DNA. The results can help you insure you're researching your direct family lines.
FAN Club - Miguel learns all about a neighbor of his great grandfather and that connection with his family is a key to the story. What I especially like about this genealogy tip is that the connection isn't an immediate neighbor or made through a religious organization, such as being a baptism sponsor. This connection is career related and sometimes we overlook that. Checking out union records, membership in business associations and even competitors in an industry could provide you with a wealth of information about an ancestor's life.
Family Stories - We all have our legends and just like Miguel's, they get convoluted in the retelling. To separate the facts from fiction in yours, first write down the story as you remember hearing it. If possible, ask another family member to tell you what they remember of the story. There will be some differences and note those. Next, research to see if there were records for the event mentioned. Newspapers, court documents, and even almanacs can help you determine the factual basis of the story. Getting the correct story may help you find that missing marriage record or place of death so this approach is well worth the effort.
Uncovering Buried Memories - The most poignant part of the movie for me was when Abuelita identifies her father, Miguel's great grandfather. Miguel is so gentle when talking with his senile grandmother and to get information before it's too late can't be stressed enough. I interviewed my maternal grandmother and mother before their memories became difficult to access. In hindsight, I wish I had recorded it instead of taking notes. If you haven't interviewed your older relatives plan on doing that soon.
Our Gifts - Miguel loved music while the rest of his living family did not. His genealogical journey helped him understand where his talent came from. By looking deeper into your family's history, you'll uncover much more than just birth-marriage-death info - you'll discover people you wish you'd met and others who you'd love to understand why they made the choices they did. Some people we can closely identify with, others, not so much. They're all a part of us and we're all connected. Like Miguel's family, we need to make peace with the past so the future can be brighter.
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